It’s that time of year again. Time to make resolutions about what you’re going to change this coming year. Exercise more, lose weight, stop staying up late, take a break from social media, get the finances in order, etc. Well instead of all these predictable (and probably temporary) intentions, here’s one from the world of energy:
Don’t take your life so seriously.
Um, what? That’s crazy talk! This is my life and I’ve only got one go around at it and I’m going to work hard to fix all the problems and make things right!
Wrong. It turns out that working hard to get it right usually makes it turn out wrong. It’s a rule of the Universe. From the perspective of Life Force Energy, things look totally different. Let’s explore this…
Loving Yourself More is Your Purpose
Some say this life on earth is like a school - Earth School. It gives you the opportunity to open yourself up more and more to who you really are. The energy of Earth is dense and many of us get bogged down in that dense energy and lose sight of our Higher Energetic Self - our True Self. Through the friction of our daily struggles and challenges, life on Earth teaches us (reminds us) who we are at our core - beyond our thoughts, beliefs, conditioning, circumstances, etc. Ultimately, if you’re paying attention, you learn (remember) you’re worthy of self-love, self-kindness, and self-compassion of the highest degree AND that your worthiness is both inherent and non-negotiable. Some say we get many go-arounds at this thing called life. Why? Because learning to love yourself is THAT important.
Joy is Evidence You’re Doing it Right
If you notice feelings of joy bubbling up in your life, you know you’re getting it right. When your mind, body, and spirit are in tune regarding your “love-worth” and you’re not dealing in daily shame, blame, guilt, and not-good-enoughness, joy can step forward and become your daily reality. No need to plan, no need to worry, no need to strive. Letting go of the idea that you need to “fix yourself” and instead learning to love yourself more just as you are allows joy to emerge and has a magical effect that allows everything else to fall into place.
You Are Not the Doer
How does this work? Can it really be this easy? Just love myself more and that’s it?
Yes. That’s it!
Of course, this is all about energy. Life Force Energy is the doer in your life. As we so often discuss here, everything in your life manifests from Life Force Energy. You think you’re in charge, but you’re not. Your life unfolds from your energy, and try as you might you cannot change your life unless you change your energy. When you raise your energy up into the higher levels of peace, joy, and love, good things happen to you regardless of what you do. You literally can’t mess it up. Likewise, when your energy is hanging out in the lower energetic realms of fear, apathy, jealousy, and shame, your life experiences tend to be difficult. Not because there’s something wrong with you but because life is trying to be your teacher… to help you rise into higher states of energy and higher states of awareness..
Think about all the wonderful things and beautiful people that have come into your life so far. Did you do that? Or did they just sort of happen out of the blue? Yep, that’s what I thought. Life Force Energy was the doer, not you. So focus on raising your energy, not striving to make things happen.
So how do you raise your energy? One way is to ask yourself the question, “How can I love myself more?” And then you follow your joy. You do things that honor yourself - mind, body, and spirit - and do things that bring you joy. You also extend love and joy when possible to other people. And you choose to turn away from things that keep your energy low and don’t bring you joy.
As you can see, experiencing joy is the manifestation of love in your soul. When your heart is full of love, joy is the natural result. So really what you’re doing is filling yourself with the high-vibrational energy of love – which also happens to be the current of Life Force Energy.
Here’s how you fill yourself with love:
1. Love yourself for who you are.
Don’t want or try to be a different person. Be gentle, not hard, on yourself. Being hard on yourself is just a bad habit - one you can stop doing. Although you may perceive what appear to be blemishes, they are there for a reason. Every part of your life is also a part of your journey. That includes the challenges as well as the triumphs. Embrace the challenges and raise your energy to change them. That’s all.
2. Love others as you love yourself.
For in reality there are no others. In the world of energy there are no boundaries between you and anyone or anything. We are all Life Force Energy. Spread the love as you go through life and it will come back to you many times over. This is perhaps the easiest way to raise your energy.
3. Listen to your heart.
And not your mind. Your higher self – the energetic part, not the brain part – will never lead you astray. Your heart is connected to Life Force Energy, so if you follow it you are letting the doer do what it needs to. To make your life everything you want it to be.
Hurry. But Don’t Hurry.
There’s no need to worry and hurry through this process. But certainly do get started. Getting started is easy: ask yourself how you can love yourself more and then listen and respond. You can skip a lot of unnecessary and fear-based resolutions this way.
In the big picture, there’s no big rush, for you actually have an infinite number of chances to get it right. Your energy travels through many lives over what we perceive to be time, so you don’t have to be anything close to perfect in this one. And the funny thing is, you already are perfect. Your life as it exists right now is exactly what it’s supposed to be. There are challenges to be sure, but as we said, they’re there for a reason.
So don’t worry if you don’t look like some imagined version of what a perfect person should look like. Nobody is perfect. We’re all in Earth School. The goal is simply to love yourself more and experience joy while you’re here. Take your time and enjoy the ride.
Seriously, Just Relax
So forget the usual resolutions about how to “fix” yourself or “fix” your life. You can skip all that and go right to joy. Love yourself more and life will fix itself.
When you make decisions that are a response to the question, “How can I love myself more?” you find that you don’t take life so seriously and joy bubbles up to the surface. Isn’t that what we’re all after anyway?
There’s nothing serious about joy. Joy is light and playful. Joy is serendipitous. Joy comes from following your heart and connecting to others. Joy comes from raising your energy in every part of your life. Take a look at your life and see what brings you joy. And do more of that. And see what doesn’t bring you joy. And do less of that.
No, that doesn’t mean you can quit your job and move to a hut on the beach. Well, you can actually. But usually it just means making some less drastic changes. You can quit your job if you don’t like it. You can move somewhere different if you want to. You can let people go from your life who don’t bring you joy. You can take up a new hobby that brings you joy. You can stop spending time doing things that don’t bring you joy. You can literally do whatever you want to if it brings you joy – it is totally in your power to do so.
So start loving yourself more and feel free to follow your joy because joy can be trusted. Fill your life with love, raise your energy, and watch what happens. You’ll be amazed.
And don’t take it seriously. You’re here for the joy of it all.
Till Next Time,
Chief Energy Guru